bpf: Fix objects stuck in free_by_rcu_ttrace

do_call_rcu_ttrace() returns early when call_rcu_ttrace_in_progress is set
and leaves the objects in free_by_rcu_ttrace. __free_rcu() frees
waiting_for_gp_ttrace only and clears the flag. Hence the objects that
free_bulk() or __free_by_rcu() added while RCU tasks trace GP was in flight
stay in free_by_rcu_ttrace until free_bulk() or alloc_bulk() is called for
the same bpf_mem_cache again, which may never happen. The number of such
objects is not bounded.

Turn call_rcu_ttrace_in_progress into three states:
0 - idle
1 - __free_rcu() is queued
2 - __free_rcu() is queued and free_by_rcu_ttrace got more objects since

do_call_rcu_ttrace() sets 2. __free_rcu() does cmpxchg(1 -> 0) and starts
the next GP when it fails. It cannot clear the flag first and check
free_by_rcu_ttrace later, since bpf_mem_alloc_destroy() frees bpf_mem_cache
without waiting for RCU callbacks when the flag is zero.

Now __free_rcu() queues itself, so the one that didn't see 'draining' may
do call_rcu_tasks_trace() after rcu_barrier_tasks_trace() in
free_mem_alloc(). Queue it under rcu_read_lock() and do synchronize_rcu()
before the barriers. Calling rcu_barrier_tasks_trace() twice works too, but
creating and destroying hash maps in a loop on many cpus slows down to one
free_mem_alloc() per GP and kworkers pile up.

Fixes: 8d5a8011b35d ("bpf: Batch call_rcu callbacks instead of SLAB_TYPESAFE_BY_RCU.")
Signed-off-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/bpf/20260930095920.601738-3-alexei.starovoitov@gmail.com
Signed-off-by: Kumar Kartikeya Dwivedi <memxor@gmail.com>